Couples Counselling in Perth, Applecross & Joondalup
Rebuilding Connection, Trust and Love- Without Losing Yourself In The Process
At some point, the relationship stopped feeling like a refuge.You’re still sharing a life – the house, the schedules, the routines. But emotionally?
fFeel like roommates. Or worse – navigating the same storm from different boats. Maybe the closeness faded slowly. Maybe it shattered overnight. Maybe there’s a wound in the relationship which never really healed.
Either way, what used to feel effortless now feels fragile, tense, or dispassionately distant.
You try to talk but it always ends in the same loop.
One of you gets reactive. The other shuts down. You give up.
You’re both exhausted from circling the same fight, never really resolving it, never really feeling heard. But the love hasn’t gone anywhere, you just can’t seem to reach other without it blowing up.
This isn’t about blame. It’s about repair.
For some couples, the demands of parenting have redefined your relationship and cracked open old patterns.
You’ve become incredible co-parents – but intimacy feels like a memory.
For others, its emotional withdrawal, mis-matched needs or the quiet ache of never quite feeling understood.
Blended families. Cultural differences. The ripple effects of emigration. The weight of childhood wounds that become raw under stress.
Even the most loving couples can find themselves disconnected – not because they stopped caring but because they never learned how to reconnect under pressure.
And if trust has been broken, the entire foundation can feel unstable. You want to rebuild – but don’t know where to begin.
This is the work we do together.
Not surface-level scripts. Not ‘Communication tips’ that fall flat by Tuesday. This is repair work at the roots. Held gently, paced respectfully and grounded in Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Together we will:
Understand the deeper emotional patterns driving your disconnection
Spot the protective cycles keeping you stuck (and how to step out of them)
Express needs, hurts, and longings in a way that’s actually taken in.
Rebuild emotional safety – one moment of honest connection at a time
This is for couples who still care but feel like they can’t quite reach each other. Where every conversation feels loaded.
Where the silence says more than the words.
Where one of you withdraws and the other clings tighter before giving up. This is deep transformative repair work – held gently, paced respectfully, and focused on helping you find your way back to each other.
It’s not too late to feel close again.
Whether you’re navigating resentment, aching for intimacy, or simply wondering, “Can we ever get back to how it used to feel?” Yes. In fact, this could be the beginning of something stronger you’ve ever known. Work with me at my Applecross or Joondalup therapy space, even meet me online – wherever feels safest to start.
Because love doesn’t just need tools. It needs repair, recognition and compassion. For many couples, it’s the beginning of something deeper than before.
Book Your Initial 90 Minute Session
This first session is a spacious starting point.
We’ll take the time to gently explore what’s brought you here, what you’re each hoping for and begin to map the patterns in your relationship that might be keeping you stuck.
Together, we’ll look at your communication style, emotional needs, and shared history. so I can get a full sense of what matters most to you both and how we can move forward with clarity and care.
It’s not about blame, it’s about awareness and understanding.
And from there, we begin the real work: building connection, safety, and emotional responsiveness together.
Why I Love Emotional Focused Therapy for Couples
Because connection isn’t just a desire – it’s a need.
It’s your attachment system at work asking: am I safe with you?
Can I reach for you? Will you turn toward me? Will you stay?
It learned long ago to adapt.
To cry quieter. To shout louder.
To shut down. Or cling.
To protect the parts that didn’t feel safe to be seen.
You might look like you’re “bad at communication.”
But really, you’re caught in a cycle that used to keep you safe.
When your partner pulls away and panic rushes in…
When you shut down mid-argument and don’t know why…
That’s not drama. That’s your attachment system doing its job.
What once protected you, might now be keeping you apart.
And it doesn’t have to stay that way.
That’s where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) meets you — gently, bravely and together.
We don’t skim the surface or hand you tools and wish you luck.
We go to the root. We understand the why and make sense of it.
We begin the repair – not through forced apologies but presence.
I’m deeply passionate about using EFT in my work with couples because it offers more than just a way to manage conflict – It offers a pathway back to each other.
What I love most about EFT is its focus on the emotional bond. It helps partners feel heard, seen, and emotionally met, often for the first time in a long time. When we feel safe in our connection, we’re more able to show up honestly, soften in the hard moments, and navigate life’s challenges, together.
EFT gently supports couples to:
Identify and understand the stuck patterns that keep dragging you apart.
Name the deeper emotional needs underneath the conflict and step out of painful, reactive cycles
Rebuild trust, intimacy, and emotional closeness from the inside out
It’s about making your realtionship feel like a place you both want to return to. To be met with care, not critism. Softness not shut down. For me, it’s incredibly meaningful to witness that shift. To see couples move from frustration and disconnect to real closeness, the kind that feels mutual, secure and lasting.
Because EFT doesn’t fix people. It fixes the distance between them.
No two couples are the same. Thats why I tailor the process to suit your unique dynamic and goals so that the work we do together feels relevant, respectful and sustainable.
Whether you come to see me in person (in Applecross, Joondalup or Perth) or prefer to work together online, you’ll be supported with care, clarity and compassion.
When you’re ready, you can book your initial 90 min session.
To help you find your way back to connection – gently, and together.
Where The Change Actually Happens
I work best with couples who are ready to do the work, not perfectly, but consistently.
Because real change doesn’t happen in a one-off session.
It happens in the rhythm.
In showing up weekly or fortnightly with honesty, openness, and a willingness to look inward, not just outward.
That’s where it begins.
That’s where the cycle starts to shift.
That’s how safety is rebuilt, moment by moment.
If you’re ready to commit to that process, I’m here to walk it with you.
Providing Couple Counselling Across Perth, Joondalup and Applecross
Explore couples counselling near you! Stregthen your relationship with expert support in-person at Joondalup Health Hub or online. Find your suburb below to learn more.
- Alfred Cove
- Alkimos
- Applecross
- Ardross
- Attadale
- Balcatta
- Bayswater
- Bicton
- Booragoon
- Burns Beach
- Butler
- Duncraig
- Greenwood
- Hillarys
- Landsdale
- Maylands
- Merriwa
- Mindarie
- Mosman Park
- Mount Pleasant
- Mullaloo
- Ocean Reef
- Padbury
- Pearsall
- Peppermint Groove
- Quinns Rocks
- Ridgewood
- Rossmoyne
- Shelley
- Wanneroo
- Warwick
- Yanchep
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